Wow i try to rationalize shunning. Those that shun do so because its in there nature to shun. I have friends who are completley incapable of such behaviour.
I remember smiling at a disfellowshipped person who came to the meeting. The elders spoke with me. " we are dealing with it"
That event was an eye opner. I couldnt understand the problem. The guy was newly baptised when he got disfellowshipped for smoking. Hardly a reason for shunning.
This woman was never really Julia Orwells friend but Sister Julia Orwells friend.